In the Marketplace of Sex Acts, we explored women’s ratings of what they like in bed, vs. how often they experience men doing them:

This is useful, but how often men do something is influenced not just by men suspecting a woman will like the thing, but also their own limitations - if a woman hates a man getting soft, you might know this but doesn’t mean you can stop it from happening by sheer force of will. If a woman loves getting her ear tongued, you might know this but still refuse to do it if you think earwax tastes gross.

So I decided to run another survey, testing what women actually like vs. what men predict women will like. Thus we can see the difference in judgement alone, unaffected by men’s own preferences or capacity.

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Pt 1: Starve Her Brain

Pt 2: Women's Sexual Subtypes

Pt 3: Men Are Werewolves

Pt 4: The Marketplace of Sex Acts

Pt 5: Sex as a Status Game

I asked ~345 women and ~1800 men to rank 77 various sex acts on a scale of 0 (hate it) to 100 (love it). And - yes, the women I’m asking are subject to selection bias, as they skew sluttier, kinkier, more liberal. But I maintain that this is exactly the kind of selection bias we want for this particular inquiry, because this is the demographic of women you’re most likely to end up having casual sex with.

I asked

1. how much women would like if a guy did it, and
2. how much men predicted a woman would like it

This is actually kind of tricky - it doesn’t make sense to ask about predicting what someone likes in a long term relationship, because at four years of dating you’re probably gonna have already figured out if she likes doggystyle or not.

But first date is hard, because some sex acts depend a lot on trust and rapport; even if a woman likes being choked, she might not like being choked during the first time she has sex with someone.